SOLITUDE

 

Solitude is really an adult word.  When we are children and we present ourselves out of control in our parents eyes, our parents put us in something called "time out."

 

As adults, we need a certain amount of security to be able to put ourselves in solitude. Also, it's very easy to confuse solitude with being alone, that keeps us from taking time to just be quiet. Some of us have to have the radio or television on when we are in solitude.  We are often challenged with sitting alone in silence.  It's almost like we are afraid to be alone with our thoughts.

 

For me, I often just say no to the world and take special time (sometimes days) for myself.  It helps that there is only me and my pup there in my flat.  I often take this special time when I know she is asleep.

 

One of my closest friends walks on a trail and just spends time by themself. No music, no cell phone, just being in nature and allowing the mind to relax and the breathing to bring in and release air.  I am envious of people who are able to give themselves a period of solitude. They just say no to the rest of the world for a period of solitude.

 

I have learned that solitude is self imposed; no one but you decides how the time is spent. It has to be healing just to get away from emails, the telephone, voice mail and other people.

 

I live on the top floor of a building and when it rains or snows I am moved to sit by the window and just be. It is refreshing and comforting. Oftentimes when I am not at home I can go outside of the building I work in; find a quiet place and imagine I am in my flat, looking out the window and seeing snow or rain and I can relax myself.

 

I have watched and learned that the struggle of Black folks worldwide against racism and oppression speaks to the depths of our spiritual wells. We must draw from them when we feel vulnerable and challenged.

 

We engage in spiritual work in many ways and diverse mediums. Today as we place spirit on the altar, let us reflect on the last time you took time to stop and allow yourself the gift of solitude. Today let us embrace that peaceful time where we let go of the world, work, family, friends and yes even your significant other, and be with you...because you are worth the peace you receive in those moments of stillness.

 

Namaste'

Akosua McCray